Why do we constantly seek approval from others, even when it sabotages our wellbeing? Dr. Gabor Maté reveals that our obsession with others' perceptions begins in childhood when parents cannot see us for who we truly are. Instead of accepting ourselves, we adapt by hiding parts of ourselves—a survival mechanism that becomes the root of anxiety, burnout, and chronic illness. In this live Vancouver conversation, Maté explains how reconnecting with your inner voice and learning to say "no" without guilt can break generational trauma patterns and help you reclaim your authentic self. Children develop a need for approval because their fundamental requirement to be seen and understood isn't met; they then hide their true selves to gain acceptance from caregivers. Chronic stress from denying your own needs—refusing to say no—suppresses your immune system, raises blood pressure, causes depression, and can activate cancer-related genes over time.