Most daters chase instant chemistry instead of long-term compatibility, confusing anxiety with attraction. Behavioral scientist Logan Ury reveals why the 'spark' is a myth, why 69% of Gen Z aren't ready for relationships despite wanting them, and how adopting 'chalant dating'—combining effort with vulnerability—transforms your results. Learn to date intentionally rather than drift through relationships searching for the perfect person. Only 11% of people experience love at first sight; attraction often grows through familiarity and repeated exposure, not instant chemistry. The biggest dating mistake is prioritizing appearance, money, and similar hobbies over kindness, emotional stability, growth mindset, and how someone makes you feel about yourself.