Why do we chase unavailable partners and repeat toxic relationship patterns? Dating coach Sabrina Zohar reveals how childhood attachment shapes adult love, the difference between healthy boundaries and protective walls, why anxious-avoidant dynamics trap couples in cycles, and actionable tools to break free from familiar pain and build genuinely secure relationships. Your nervous system learns safety patterns in infancy through micro-moments of facial expressions and attunement, then recreates these patterns as an adult by pursuing partners who feel 'familiar' rather than 'safe,' often replicating parental dynamics.