Why men and women want the same things in partners, and how dating apps exploit attraction signals that don't predict lasting relationships. Dr. Paul Eastwick reveals that both sexes prefer younger partners equally, that financial status matters identically to men and women, and that real compatibility emerges through shared time, not algorithmic matching. People's attraction to others changes dramatically over time spent together; initial middling impressions often evolve into strong desire through accumulated positive moments and unique shared experiences.