Why do people keep repeating the same mistakes? Shaolin master Shi Heng Yi says they simply haven't failed enough yet to change. In this interview with Lewis Howes, the 35th-generation Shaolin master explains his four-step RAIN method for handling restlessness, doubt, and ill will: recognize, accept, investigate, and non-identify. He describes building skills in focused cycles, seven days for skin and thirty days for muscle, with longer cycles for deeper change. His empty cup metaphor frames how parents, teachers, and culture fill us with expectations that were never our own. He also argues that daily gratitude acts as a magnet for abundance. Expect practical tools for choosing one skill to focus on and questioning which goals are truly yours. Shi Heng Yi's RAIN method moves through inner hindrances in four steps: recognize, accept, investigate, and non-identify.